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Discussion in 'Locker Room Talk' started by Bottom Feeder, Sep 5, 2013.
How would you define them, how valuable are they to you?
I'd just define interpersonal skills as the skills that allow you to interact with people on a general basis.
I'd say they're valuable in the context that interacting with people without spazzing out or uncontrollably telling people what your top ten favorite animes are and your top ten slash fan fictions for each individual anime when you meet someone is an important life skill.
Being 10 kinds of autistic will not get you far in life.
The funny thing is that, although I do believe they can be properly cultivated, they do seem to be developed independently from intellectual skills and can be left unpolished indefinitely. For something that is considered so valuable in today's society, it rarely gets promoted during academic education as if it's an aspect that should be acquired intuitively.
To me its another word for 'extrovert' and 'social' how easy it is for you to get along with strangers.
Expressing one's feelings appropriately
Using argumentation techniques to persuade others
Making commitments to people
Teaching a skill, concept, or principle to others
Analyzing behavior of self and others in group situations
Demonstrating effective social behavior in a variety of settings and under different circumstances
Working under time and environmental pressures etc
Pretty much. Most people think that social skills develop naturally in people, though, as the articles on ED suggest, this isn't that cut and dry. Though, many people think that schools, at least those before college, might be better suited in focusing more on general life skills, rather than teaching you what the pythagorean theorem is.
Interpersonal communication isn't something that should be broken down into a science, it takes away from the genuity. That's such an aspie way to go about things, to learn how to be a better communicator through books and study. It turns communication into a strategy game, and it shouldn't be treated like that at all.
The best way to develop these skills is to cultivate them by conversing with family members, then friends, then acquaintances, and finally strangers. Books are alright as long as you remember the individual nature of every human being; i.e. Using a formula for conversation will not always be effective with everyone.
I guess have a different view of what interpersonal skills are. I think interpersonal skills are just a professional way to present yourself to the world, which is an important skill to have, but I have never equated interpersonal skills with being genuine.
Many people think that way which is why most people in the business world are plastic and fake.
Like phishing and worms that spread via social media?
I don't disagree. I'm not saying people should wave their autism flag, but I do wish people were more genuine in their interactions. People encourage you to be polite, but politeness is just being nice to someone even though you might hate their guts. It would be nice if people could naturally be courteous to others, but I guess not.
Yeah, that's why I asked for a definition, because I think it detaches itself from being naturally intro or extroverted, and leaving their development to chance, when considered a requisite at work and how it correlates to competence, is kind of dumb.
With dogs a responsible owner works a process known as "Socializing"....
Not only introducing a puppy to as many other dogs, people and other animals as possible but also simulating known trigger situations, rewarding positive behaviors. In this way one turns a stupid beast into a loyal companion.
I believe interpersonal skills are a product of stimulation/socialization in childhood.
As a parent you get what you put in...
It is my contention that using the dog training model, replacing pats and treats with gradual freedoms and open and honest dialog of the interactions/situations during the process, one can raise (with reasonable certainty) an incredibly well rounded, adaptable, socially fluid, pussy getting machine.
Also, I think those trying to develop these traits after early development end up, as Uber stated:
plastic and fake.
Aspie soup for the soul
Hince: comiccon, hiphop clubs, brony forums, OhI, ect. Inane social constructs where the socially retarded can get in where they fit in.
My therapist is working on refining my interpersonal skills to make me not so difficult to be around. Being trained like I'm a dog is fucking fascinating.
Nurses and Doctors could use some skillz, some of them have the empathy of a door and are fucking insufferable.
I don't understand the question.
Is Bottom Feeder about to lose his jewb cuz he no ppl skillz enough?
I value intoapersonal skills more.
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I would define interpersonal skills as techniques that allow you to survive in a social situation. I think that they are probably the most important skills that you could possibly have, because human culture is run on social interaction. If you have no social skills, then you really are nothing in the eyes of other people.
That being said, they are probably the hardest skills to obtain, because how people interact with you varies a lot from person to person. One person might be level-headed and sensible, while another might be easy to anger and emotion. And then you throw in things like aspergers and depression into the mix, and interpersonal skills that previously worked become useless.