OK, long story short... the girl I dated back in college (we're talking 15 years ago now) is single and still incredibly hot. When we dated she seemed to have genuinely liked who I was... loved maybe? I guess she loved me... frankly I broke up with her because I was a dumb-ass 21 year old, and I've kinda regretted it ever since. A couple years after that when she moved and returned stuff of mine she still had, I think she was sizing me up, but I don't think I gave her the answers she wanted to her (the day we met up was literally the same day I started methadone treatment)... and so right around then she started dating some other guy. Almost a decade later, they're no longer together. Now I've talked to her every now and again since then and... well, she'll talk to me, as opposed to ignore me... but I can't help but feel like she's having a conversation with me for my benefit, as opposed to ACTUALLY wanting to talk to me. But then again, if she didn't want to talk to me at all, she wouldn't, right? On the other hand, she usually is the one to never reply to my most recent messages. Anyways, we're both in our mid-30s and single, but I can't tell if it's a good idea or not to try to reconnect with her. Like, what adult wants to go back out with their ex? I mean, we dated 15 years ago, but now we don't... so, THE END forever.... right? Or is it considered within the realm of a perfectly normal social experience for people to try to reconnect with their ex's? Right now, however, I feel like the feelings of ambiguity of not knowing is preferable to the high chance of shitty feelings of rejection, even if there's a small potential for success. Especially considering that maybe she has been giving me obvious signs of legitimate disinterest and yet I'm stupid enough to not recognize it. Probably the quickest thing to do is to sort of jump straight into the pool of lava and straight up see if she's still interested, despite the risk of whatever negative feelings that come out of it, just to get it over with.... but frankly I don't even know what I would say that wouldn't sound terrible or creepy. "hur dur date me again plz" Honestly I can't tell if I'm a loser for still thinking about her for so long after we dated, or because I'm asking you fags for personal advice.